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Wavy lifestyle exclusive: Having sex for the first time (How it feels,what you expect, what happens)

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    Having sex for the first time

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thinking about having sex for the first time, you might be feeling a little nervous as well as excited. There’s probably loads you want to know – and that’s totally normal. We’ve put together a list of some stuff to consider before, during and after sex.

Think about whether you’re ready

Deciding to have sex for the first time is a pretty big deal. Make sure you’re ready, and that you’ve thought through the following:

Is sex something you really want to do, or do you feel you’re being pressured into it?What are you comfortable doing, and what is ‘off limits’?Do you want to be in a committed relationship with the person you have sex with?

If you’re not sure if you’re 100% ready, it can help to talk with someone you trust, such as a trusted friend or family member, or a mental health professional. If you’re in a relationship, it’s very important that you talk to your partner about how you both feel, and to make sure that you both consent. Sexual consent must be explicit, which means that both people say that they really want to have sex. Read up on five things you need to know about sexual consent here.

Okay, I’m ready. Now what?

So, you’re feeling ready for sex, and both you and your partner consent. Awesome. But here’s the thing: it’s important to go about it in a responsible way. For example, if you don’t practise safe sex, you can get a sexually transmissible infection (STI). And if you’re thinking of having penis-in-vagina sex, there’s a chance you could get pregnant as well. Luckily, there are things you can do to reduce the chances of becoming infected or pregnant.

Use condoms (for penis-in-vagina or penis-in-anus sex) or dams (for oral sex on a vagina or anus) to protect both of you from STIs and pregnancy.Check out our info on contraceptionand STIs.What to expect

Still have lots of questions? Here’s some more info that might help.

Will it hurt?

For some people, first-time sex can feel uncomfortable and may hurt or sting a bit. For others, though, it’s comfy, fun and enjoyable from the get-go. It’s a totally individual experience.

What to do: Pain during sex may mean there’s not enough lubrication to help things move smoothly. If there’s not enough natural lubrication, this could be from a lack of desire, from feeling nervous, or because things are moving too fast. Medications, hormones, tiredness and illness can also have an effect.

Try suggesting a different position, asking your partner to slow down, or using extra lubrication. Make sure it’s a water-based lube if you’re using condoms, and ALWAYS use extra lube for anal sex. If it hurts a lot, stop. Discuss with your partner ways to make sex more comfortable, or talk to your GP if you’re concerned there might be something else going on.

What’s the hymen?

The hymen is a thin membrane that surrounds the opening of the vagina. You may notice a little bit of blood the first time you have vaginal sex if the hymen tears. This is normal. It’s equally normal not to have any! If there is some bleeding from sex, it shouldn’t last very long. If it continues, visit your GP.

Will there be fireworks?

First-time sex can be awesome, or it may leave you feeling a bit disappointed. It’s hard to tell before you do it. As with most things, good sex takes practice. If fireworks don’t happen straight off, don’t stress. Everyone is different: some people don’torgasm during sex, some orgasm really quickly, and others take a very long time to reach orgasm, especially the first few times. It can take a while to work out what you both like, what you’re comfortable with, and what feels good. You’re not expected to be a mind reader, so try to be open with your partner and let them know what does and doesn’t do it for you. We get that it’s not always easy to talk about this stuff, and it might take awhile before you feel ready to discuss it Remember: they’re probably just as nervous as you are, and you both want to make each other feel good.

Afterwards

After having sex for the first time, you may feel really great, excited and close to your partner, because of all the hormones rushing through your body. It’s also common to feel worried, confused, teary, or even a bit guilty. This could be because it was different from what you expected, or it feels like a big deal, or you might feel unsure about how it will affect your relationship.

Sex is a very personal thing, and can feel really intimate, so experiencing intense feelings afterwards is understandable. If you’re worried about what you’re feeling, talk it through with your partner, a trusted friend or family member, or a mental health professional. 

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Wizkid is Africa’s Apple Music Artist of the Year award recipient for 2021

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Wizkid (sobriquet Big Wiz or StarBoy) receives the honour as Apple Music Artist of the Year (Africa) for 2021. The annual award held by the premier streaming platform praises individual artites for having a stellar year on its music platform both through streams and culturally.

On Wizkid winning, an excerpt from Apple Music reads: ” In October 2020, he released “Made in Lagos,” his critically acclaimed and most commercially successful album, which included his hit song “Essence,” a track that gained 125 million plays on Apple Music and over 2.8 million Shazams. This past year, he’s been the most streamed African artist on the continent on Apple Music and ranked on the Daily Top 100 charts in 60 countries, in addition to his monthly plays on Apple Music growing by more than 250 percent outside of Africa.”

“Thank you to Apple Music for this award”, Wizkid said, continuing, “It’s a blessing to get to do what I do, and I’m proud to be representing for Africa.”, Ayodeji “Wizkid” Balogun says in thank you speech. The Apple Music Award, the third annual series will air on Apple Music and Apple TV starting Tuesday, December 7, 2021.

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Dj Wapsam takes his self named clothing line up a notch, launches online storefront

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During the pandemic, Dj Wapsam like everyone else was scouting for opportunities online, to get his DJing skills to more people, countless audiomack mixes, whatsApp broadcast messages until he found the right platform, Tiktok roughly six months later, his strategy was simple yet hard, create a catchy adlib, the resonate a phrase that a listener won’t easily forget, the uptrend started with Ibon “wonti yi ibon, esare o esare o” shortly after the 1 mins videos was everyone, people reposting, apart from his Djing skills, one thing Wapsam didn’t let go is his clothing line! Shopwapsam now!

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See how this 24 years old Nigerian is harnessing the power of WhatsApp to create a community of super cool Gen Z

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One of the greatest way to build wealth is through adding value to ones immediate community, even startup fundraising have a family & friends round, this is because unlike institutional investors, these people are ready to carry you when you fail, this is what Akinlusi Funso Oluwagbenga, 24 is leveraging to build a brand, in Western Africa, Nigeria to be precise, WhatsApp TV is thing, people use there large audiences, status views to bill prospective customers for ads placement but there is a downside to the model, unverified news, misinformation, nudity, most importantly non-active viewers, for most 5000 views only 100 are engaging in post, these are the challenges making the once shining means of social influencing die down until January last year when Funso started his Captain Awesome TV, the Nigerian influencer has always referred to himself as a social media influencer not just a WhatsApp TV admin, but this wasn’t what brought the distinction, it was the way be carefully built his audience from zero to close to 10k active status views to his highly curated itinerary of events from music and entertainment gist to politics and football commentary, and highly engaging programs around topics like sex education, relation tips to spear heading campaigns which say the TV community give a huge amount of money to the less privileged etc.

When asked why he is being thorough in an industry people don’t really appreciate he said “everyone project there non existent, advanced version on Instagram, fake there level of intellect on twitter, but WhatsApp is where you really know people because it’s like there safe and private space, where no one is really watching, so people’s opinion about a brand or service in the space tends to be from an honest point of view not clout for retweets or likes”

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